Getting married is a beautiful thing and it can also be a
bit overwhelming. When you find yourself
deeply in love with your soul mate you want to be a part of their life in every
way and to grow old together.
But, marriage involves more about you knowing
about the other person, it’s not just about Love and companionship, it’s about
knowing the dos and don’ts of each other if you both are planning to have a
lasting relationship. The success or failure of a marriage depends on a lot of
things and how to deal with issues as they arise.
Here are 8 issues to talk about before tying the knot:
1. Religion
What is your faith? Do you and your partner have the same beliefs, and if
not, are you okay with that? Many religions have different practices,
traditions, and beliefs. It’s best to keep an open mind and always hear your
partner out.
2. Finances
When you have made up your mind to spend the rest of your life with someone,
its best to iron out the way money is going to be managed. Do you both want to
have a joint account or not. One of the biggest fights among couples is mostly
about finances. If one of you is a spender and the other is a saver, choose
amounts to set aside for the future and for personal spending that you'll both
be satisfied with. It’s really important to be transparent and strategic with
your partner about what you earn, spend, save, and invest in. What are your
financial goals? What kind of lifestyle do both of you want to have? These are
questions to ask before tying the knot
3. Careers
Before marriage both of you have to discuss your career paths. You both should
discuss the careers you have now if either of you want to further in your
education or if either of you want to stay and manage the home, if the income
either one of you has can sustain your lifestyles and if there are other
business plan either or both of you want to run together. This is a very
important aspect to be discussed in other to maintain a healthy and long
lasting relationship.
4. Sex
Most people think being in a marriage automatically means that having sex
with a third party is no longer an option. Well, not really because you can set
the rules in your marriage. Can you be committed to sleeping with one person
for the rest of your life? Would you consider an open marriage? What does
infidelity mean to you? As awkward as it may sound, to each his own, the aim is
to understand fully what you’re getting yourself into.
5. Kids
Either you decide to have them or not, both of you should discuss these. What
timeline do you want to set before you have kids, how many do you both feel
comfortable in having, how will the parenting style be, Are you open to
adoption or fertility treatments if you’re unable to conceive naturally? Will
one of you have to stay at home after you have your kids? You also need to
consider your lifestyles and the size of your living space.
6. Location
Both parties have to discuss were they want to put their roots. Where
will be ideal for them to find good jobs, were they can raise their kids and
fine good schools for them, at the same time have the kind of lifestyle they
both desire.
7. Manage conflicts
There can’t be any kind of partnership without conflicts once in a while,
but both of you should find ways of managing them without it getting out of
hand. How to resolve differences when it arises should be discussed and trying
to know what stress up your other half or get on their nerves should already be
identified by you before any union. Communication is usually the best solution
to this.
8. Personal views
How
do you absorb the events happening around you? Do you have extremely opposite
views about political issues and current events? How do both of you regard
married life? Overall, your personal views don’t exactly have to match, but
having a common ground is ideal. This way, you can avoid fights and you develop
a sense of respect towards your partner.
Remember:
You don’t have to go
through all of this in one sitting! Be open and sincere. Take it easy. These
things are important, but arriving at a compromise is never impossible once you
hear each other out.
Sources
https://www.huffingtonpost.com
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