Anyone in the world, big or small,
fat or thin, black or white, can feel somewhat inferior to everyone else at
times during their lives. We tell ourselves that we aren't good enough, pretty
enough or smart enough, but these comments are in no way based on facts.
Luckily, there are lots of simple steps you can take to overcome an inferiority
complex.
What is Inferiority complex
An inferiority complex as the name
suggests is a complex in which an individual has overwhelming feelings of
inferiority. While we all have weak points and areas of ourselves which could
be improved, the person with an inferiority complex will fixate on these
weaknesses and use them in order to evaluate their overall worth. As a result of
their real or perceived flaws, they then see themselves as generally less
important, successful or accomplished as others and of course this can have
many negative impacts on their lives.
In some cases inferiority complex
can lead to overcompensation and this is the best scenario. Here the individual
does everything in their power to overcome their perceived inferiority and this
can mean that they end up in highly successful jobs, amassing great wealth and
succeeding in powerful relationships. However while such a person might be a
high achiever, a sense of inferiority will mean that they will always be less
happy than they could be and it may have other negative impacts on their life.
Dealing with Inferiority complex
First of all you must determine the
root cause for your inferiority. Determining the root cause for your inferiority is an essential
step that can help you get over it quickly. Try to recall your childhood and
remember the bad experiences you have been through. In many cases these bad
experiences might be buried in the unconscious
mind because of the pain associated with bringing them to the
surface.
After determining the root cause of your inferiority
complex you can use the following methods to overcome it:
1. Negative Self
Talk
Negative
self-talk are the phrases or words you use while talking to yourself. Whenever
you find that you are using phrases like: "I know she/he won’t accept me
because I am ugly" or "I am the worst dressed person in this
party" just stop and fix your self-talk. Positive
outlook of yourself is a very
effective method that can help you fix your negative self-talk and get over
your inferiority complex.
2. Build your self
confidence
As you work
through your inferiority complex, you need to start building self confidence. Start by fixing your mental image of
yourself. Inferiority complexes are based on false ideas about ourselves. Try
to remind yourself that this image is false and doesn't portray the reality.
Remove labels you have attached to yourself. Don't think of yourself as stupid,
ugly, unsuccessful, a failure, or anything else. Refuse to use them when you
think about yourself.
3.
Try not to
worry about what others think.
Inferiority
complexes arise from our constant concern about what others think about us. We
oftentimes find problems with ourselves based on if others find us good enough.
This isn't healthy thinking. Stop worrying so much about what others think
about you. Only your opinion matters. Sometimes these judgments are real, but many times they are
imaginary. Focus on making yourself happy without worrying about what others
think. And try not to make up people's judgments.
4.
Stop wanting to
be like others.
Inferiority
complexes are rooted in the desire to be just like someone else. They make you
want to be someone you're not. If you try to be someone else, you aren't being
true to yourself. This doesn't include limiting yourself and trying new things.
Just don't try to be someone else. Be you. You can get inspired by
people. That means you look up to them and take some of their traits and put
them into yourself. But the important difference is you are still you. You
aren't trying to copy someone else or be someone else. You are using them as a
positive guide while still being true to yourself.
5.
Fix your mental self
image
In some cases
when a person feels inferior his self
image becomes affected too. Yourself image is the image you have
for yourself in your mind. Sometimes this image gets permanently modified as a
result of the feelings of inferiority a person experienced. Fixing your mental
self-image is one of the most powerful actions you can do to combat the
inferiority complex. When the inferiority complex is based on a false belief
(such as thinking that you are stupid/ugly) then fixing the mental self image
will certainly end the inferiority complex. Once you convince yourself that you
were fooled and that you were carrying a false belief you will be able to get
rid of your inferiority complex.
6.
Surround Yourself With Positive
People
The problem
with an inferiority complex is that it often attracts the wrong kind of relationships
and these might be the kinds of relationships who will try to take advantage of
your nature or who will act as a leach on your self confidence. Often other
unconfident people will associate with you and will try to put you down in
order to make themselves feel better. You need to make sure that this doesn't
happen and recognize when it is happening. If you do have people in your life
who are critical or bitchy then you don't need them in your life right now –
one of the best things you can do is to cut them out of your life for now until
you have gained more confidence – and explain to them why so that they can
change.
7.
Stop comparing
yourself to everyone else.
People with
inferiority complexes spend too much time comparing themselves to everyone around
them. If you do this, you will come up with a never ending list of ways people
are better than you. You can't compare yourself to someone else, because
everything about your life and circumstances are different - from the family
you were born in, to your genetics, to your opportunities.
8.
Improve Yourself
If you are
upset with your lack of confidence, or with your physique, or with your
intelligence then don't worry – these are all things that you can improve with
practice and there are many other ways to boost your confidence too. The answer
is not to wish that you were different but to take action and to turn yourself,
and your life, into what you want it to be. The great news too is that it's
never too late to start and there are plenty of great role models you can look
up to who have achieved a lot at almost every age. Find role models, set goals,
and work to make yourself into what you want to be.
9.
Take Up a Hobby
The problem
with an inferiority complex is that you look at one flaw in your personality or
one area in which you are not as talented as you could be and then you
generalize that or inflate its importance so that you completely lose your
confidence. The solution then is to find one thing that you are good at and
then to get your self esteem and your confidence from that. For instance then
you might choose to take up a sport or woodwork, and then you can practice
getting better at that and gain more confidence from that area.
Source:
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