Can’t tell if someone is just
being friendly or if they want to date you? Put these 28 signs to the test and
find out if they have a secret crush on you!
In today’s world, it’s
hard to tell if a person is actually into you in a way that makes them want to
take you out on a fancy date or if they’re just being friendly. Too many people
try to hide their feelings because they’re unsure of yours, and the cycle just
keeps going.
The good thing is that people
can usually only hide so much about their true feelings and intentions. I’ve
had a male friend for YEARS who was always just a friend to me. Then one day, I
started noticing little things that made me question how he really felt.
Hiding their big secret
For a while, I just
dismissed these little signs, thinking that maybe he was being weird for a
while. But then he made a move. Needless to say, I was surprised, but not that
much. I knew something was up and figured it out before he said anything.
Do you have someone like
that in your life, too? Are you just sitting there in complete confusion
because you can’t tell if they’re just friendly or if they really feel
something more? These 28 signs might shed some light on their behavior and
unearth their secret feelings for you.
How to find out if
someone like-likes you or just likes you
#1 They compliment you
often. Not
in an outright, obvious way. They’re trying to hide their feelings, after all.
I’m saying subtle things that almost *keyword, ALMOST* go unnoticed by you. A
phrase like “cool sweatshirt” is subtle enough not to seem like it means much, but it does.
#2 They notice the
little things. Not
many people notice if you just get a trim, especially if you’re a girl, but if
they notice enough to comment on it, they could having some feelings outside of
just friendship.
#3 They often start the
conversation. If
they’re constantly the one to start a conversation with you, it’s because they
always want to talk to you—a sign that they have a big crush on you.
#4 They initiate hanging
out. When
they’re the ones always asking to go grab coffee, hang out, or watch a movie,
they might be hiding their true feelings of wanting to see you all the time.
#5 You catch them
looking at you at strange times. Have you ever looked over at them in a group setting and
noticed that their eyes were already on you? That’s because they were admiring
your hotness—almost guaranteed. Unless you were doing something weird, of
course…
#6 They never ask you
about your significant other, if you have one. If you’re dating someone
else and are just friends with them, they’re never going to ask how things are
going. It’s too painful for them to talk about your being with someone else.
#7 They change the
subject when you talk about someone you like. If that person isn’t them, they’re going to change the
subject so they don’t have to listen to it. That’s a huge indicator that they
might have feelings for you.
#8 They ask about your family. People who only want to be friends with you aren’t going to
go out of their way to ask about how your family is doing unless they know
something is wrong. If they’re just “checking up” on them, they probably like you
and want to show an interest in the things that matter to you.
#9 They ask deep questions. Most “just friend” types aren’t going to ask, in
detail, about your biggest dreams, aspirations, and desires. If they’re asking
personal, deep questions, then they might have a huge crush on you.
#10 They make jokes
about dating you. This
is one that one of my good guy friends who ended up liking me always did. He
would casually joke about “if you were my girlfriend…” all the time. Truth be told, he
really wished that.
#11 You hear that
they’ve been talking about you to other mutual friends. When you have other
friends coming up to you saying things like “oh yeah, so and so told me you did
that,”
then they definitely like you. They can’t seem to stop talking about you, even
when you’re not there.
#12 They’re more
“hands-on” with you. Not
in a weird, perverted way. But they are closer to you and find excuses to make
physical contact whenever they can. Little shoulder touches or a hand on your
back is all it takes to show that they’ve got a crush on you.
#13 You two always wind
up alone together. Somehow,
no matter what the plans are or where you’re going, the two of you always end
up alone together at some point. This is planned on their part and it’s because
they want it that way.
#14 They pay extra
attention when you’re talking while in a group setting. When there’s a bunch of
people around, it’s hard to focus on one person when you’re all friends. But if
they like you more than that, they’ll be the one listening and hanging on your
every word.
#15 They smile more
around you. You
know how it is. Being around your crush just makes you ridiculously happy and
you seem to always have a grin on your face. If that’s them, they might be
crushing on you.
#16 They never talk
about their love interests. You may bring up your crushes sometimes, but if they
never, ever mention anyone they like, chances are that’s because it’s you.
#17 When in groups, they
usually stick by your side. When someone likes you and you’re in a big group, they’re
going to spend as much of their time as they can right next to you.
#18 They discuss the
future with you. No,
not just where you’ll be that weekend, but where you’ll be five years from now.
They’re gauging if your future goals are similar or not because they want to
determine if there’s a chance it could work between the two of you.
#19 They find a reason
to dislike everyone you date. There’s nothing more frustrating than a friend who seems
to hate everyone you date. But the truth might just be that they’re jealous.
#20 They confide in you
more than anyone else. Do
you know secrets about them that even their closest friend doesn’t? Confiding
in someone and putting their trust in them is a huge sign they’ve got a crush!
#21 They remember
important/weird stuff about you. Not just your birthday or the date of a big event in your
life, but they remember that you like your toast burnt or that you can’t stand
the sound of twigs breaking. If they remember the weird stuff, they like you.
#22 Any form of
unintended flirting. When
someone has a crush on you, they’re going to accidentally flirt with you. It’s
a natural human reaction. So if they’re flirting and you realize it’s not on
purpose, it could be a sign they want to be more than friends.
#23 They do their best
to look nice around you. If
you two are just hanging out at their house, not doing anything else and yet
they’ve dressed pretty nice and look well-polished, it’s because they’re trying
to impress you.
#24 People you’ve never
met know about you because of them. I once went to my guy friend’s house, and his mom greeted
me with a hug and by name, but I had never met her before. If their family and
friends know about you before you’ve even met, they like you. For sure.
#25 They show different
sides of themselves. If
you’ve seen them be goofy, happy, funny, upset, devastated, and everything in
between, they might like you. They’re trying to show you their different sides
and hoping that you’ll do the same.
#26 They attempt to make
you jealous. If
you notice they’re bringing up hot people they like or that they just seem like
they’re trying to make you jealous in general, it’s because they want to know
if you care about them enough to get jealous.
#27 They make a move. An arm around your
shoulder, an all-too-intimate hug, or touching your face in any way can be a huge
sign that they have a big crush on you. If you’re just friends with someone,
you don’t make moves like that.
#28 They tell you. Some people are brutally honest.
They’ll just straight out tell you they have feelings for you and want to take
things a step further. At that point, it’s up to you to decide where you want
to go from there.
Deciphering someone’s
feelings for you isn’t always easy, especially when they’re trying to hide it.
Take it from someone who’s been there, these hush-hush signs will prove that
they have a big crush on you!
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