Kemi and Jide worked in the same
office and had a perfect romantic relationship this to the envy of other
co-workers. But something happened along the line and they both had to end their
relationship. It became so awkward between the two of them and Kemi being the
one with the broken heart had a hard time getting along at work.
Normal breakups are hard, but office
breakups are a whole ball game.
And, unfortunately, whether things ended in a mutual agreement or a heated
argument doesn’t always matter. Working with your former significant other is really awkward. People find themselves
in these situations all the time and many don’t know how to handle it, some
have figured out how to thrive under the circumstances.
Here are 10 tips of surviving working
in the same office with your Ex even if he/she is in the next cubicle:-
1. Keep
it Professional
Hopefully you
and your former significant other agreed to keep your relationship out of the workplace
from the get-go. As impossible as it might seem, you need to treat your ex like
any of your other co-workers. Keep all of your communications polite and
strictly professional.
2. Keep really
busy
If you have to
deal with your Ex while you are working, just stay busy. Bury yourself in
paperwork, keep your headphone on or work with clients. Anything that can keep you busy.
3.
Don’t badmouth.
When you are in
the office, one of the surefire ways on how to deal with your Ex , is not bad
talking him/her. This especially in the office.
4.
Limit your interaction.
Alright, so you
accept the fact that you need to swallow your pride, stuff down your negative
emotions, and continue to work with this person. But, that doesn’t mean you
need to be constantly involved in each other’s daily lives. You can change a few small parts of your
schedule that could help ease the tension of your situation.
5.
Learn patience.
Your Ex is
probably not going to be as matured as you are, that is why you have to make
sure you are learning all about patience. You want to be patience with your
feelings, patience with your thoughts and patient in your job.
6. Don’t flirt.
Once you and an
Ex breakup, you don’t have to flirt with co-workers just to make him/her
jealous. For one, this will make it seem like you are a relationship jumper.
And two make you look childish.
7.
Channel your energy.
We’ve probably
all been a little obsessive over a breakup at one point or another. It’s human
nature, really. But, rather than wasting your time churning over the fact that
your ex is already talking
about a date for this upcoming weekend, channel all of that pent up energy and
passion into your work. It’s not always easy, but try to check your emotions at
the door of the office and zone in on excelling at your job. Remind yourself,
you only need to get through the next nine hours.
8. Don’t change
desk
If you happen
to sit next to your Ex, don’t make a big deal about it. Instead keep it
professional and courtesy and don’t change the desk. Once you change, every
other person will know what’s up with you.
9. Hangout with
your friends.
When you are
going through a break up and looking for ways deal with your Ex. You want to
have support of the system. There will be those that will be with you no matter
what.
10. Keep
personal stuff personal.
When it comes to personal stuff, leave it at the door. You don’t
want to drag any emotional baggage with you when you are walking into the
office. This will make a big difference in how well you do your work.
Finally, you spend a lot of time at work, so it’s totally
expected or understandable that romance will bloom there. But, while you’re recovering from this particularly tense
and awkward situation, take some time to evaluate the circumstances. Was that
office fling worth all of this extra care and caution?
All
breakups are at least a little bit uncomfortable, distressing, and distracting.
But, an office breakup introduces a whole new awkward element to an already
fragile situation.
No, you
don’t need to quit your job. Simply put these tips to work to get through it
all with dignity.
Source:
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